Personal development

The “I-can’t-decide” symdrome

I talk to myself occasionally. I bet you do too. Don’t worry we are not going crazy. I am referring to that annoying little voice in your mind, the one that pretends to be your intellect but actually is the  master trickster. It creates in you self doubt and perpetuates your ‘sad’ story. The one about how difficult your life is, how unfair the world treats you and how all your friends have it better than you.

Sometimes our minds tell us that we : “can’t possibly do that” or “who am I to deserve this” or ” I don’t need it anyway, why bother?”

Why bother?! Because the pebble will not drop where you want it to if you keep dropping it where you are. Why bother?! Because change happens whether we like it or not and if we do not ACT on our intuition we are just waiting for something to go wrong. Sow maize and you’ll get maize. Bury potatoes and you shall harvest potatoes. Your present life situation is the result of your past thinking and actions. If you want a different tomorrow, a better tomorrow, do something different today. That is the only way. Stop making excuses about how difficult it will be given your present circumstances.

Right now if you are committing to your change, well done.

If you are not, ask yourself : ” Have I got a reason why I cannot take this action?”  I am sure you are either justifying why your life is too busy for the change and how you cant do it because you need more of something. OR you are blaming someone else for not enabling you to take that action.

STOP right NOW!!!

Do not justify, blame or shame yourself. Instead tell yourself that you are just experiencing a negative thought. You are not negative/lazy/incompetent. It is just the mind that is playing tricks. Repeat to yourself : ” This is just a negative thought” then tell yourself the complete opposite of the negative thought that you have just imagined. REMEMBER, you are not your negative thoughts. You can choose any thought you want to occupy your mind. You are not your thoughts or your mind. You choose what goes on in your head. Choose well and choose thoughts that support you.

I write this tonight as a piece of advice for people around me who are still thinking about how to improve their lives. Who are suffering from PARALYSIS of ANALYSIS. People who believe that they cannot decide, who are actually just too afraid to take the step out into the unknown. Fear is good, but inaction because of fear is not serving the purpose of fear. Fear is to raise caution, not to stop action.

Trust your gut. Listen to your instincts. Your feelings will guide you to the correct direction. Just calm your mind down and pay attention to the warm guidance of intuition. And YOU WILL BE OK.


Lots of love.