Personal development

Why you should listen even though you’ve heard it before.

Last night I went to a talk at YES Group Borders and came across 2 phrases that I have heard of countless of times before. My brain responded with a “I know that” and my interest started to dwindle. ” The Law of Attraction”. ” Your thoughts create your future” . OK if the law was true, show me the proof! AND SHOW DID HE! (all quotes are by Richard Batey)

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Richard Batey – Tattoo artist, speaker, inventor, designer, dad


Richard Batey stood in front of the crowd tense at first, sharing the story of his childhood and how he did not do well at school, how he did not conform to the mold of a good student and how he saw the world in his own ways, and lived it through his creative slant. I wondered where this story was going, and I began to wonder how could this child possibly be so fearless and so bold to live his interests, and I remembered how I had once lived mine too.

I could see it was possible.

Richard was obsessed with cars and drawing and the image of fire. He was obsessed with creating objects and eventually creating beautiful images. He would lose hours exploring what he loved. I admired him for continuing to live that way all the way through childhood. He seems to have this deep faith that he was meant to do what he enjoyed, that it is OK to do what he loves despite all the objection around him.  I remember a long time ago I lived this way too, free from limitations as I stood in front of audiences to tell stories and recite poems at the age of 6, I earned my first wage at 10 doing a voice over of a cartoon, I spoke to strangers because I wanted to make friends…… and then I learnt the concept of lack, the concept of comparison and the concept of non-deserving.

All the time I knew I would be learning the skills to do the things to achieve this dream.

Richard was no car designer, but he taught himself how to weld and spray paint, and eventually got to the top of his game by competing amongst the nation’s best. He started already KNOWING that he had much to learn. He took action knowing the gap needed closing. HE DID NOT WAIT FOR ALL THE DUCKS TO LINE UP. He set a goal and went for it fearlessly. From this I learnt that success is created along the way, it is earned. Waiting to be ‘skilled enough’ before beginning to pursue a dream is an excuse or a blame. I will never be good enough to start because there is no such thing. There is no qualification required to begin acting on any dream. It is about taking the first step.

 It ain’t what you do it is how you do it.

Richard reminded me that we all have our place in this world, we can sell the same thing or service but when we operate out of passion, whatever you do works. I got reminded that when someone is in their flow, they will offer to humanity what is uniquely theirs to offer and people will want a piece of it, because it originates from creative passion and not greed.

Learn the rules of the game. If you are going to play the game you have to know the rules. I failed because I have not learnt the rules of the game.

Our modern world is made up of sets of rules. There are rules governing economy, rules within cultures, rules about human behavior, rules controlling bodily functions and metabolism. If you want to succeed in this game of life, then learn the rules. Start young and keep learning. Accept that you are smart but the more you become aware of information the better at maneuvering life you get.


Everyone is going to hit the bottom. Prepare yourself for the hit and prepare yourself for where you will bounce to. It is the attitude that you hit the bottom that decides how high you are going to bounce and the goal is the direction. If you are a deflated ball, you will roll into the gutter. You HAVE to bounce not roll, and having a goal is going to drive you to bounce.

This has GOT to be my favourite quote of the night. A failure is not a failure unless you say it is one. One thing I noticed about Richard is that he never undermines himself. His reply to a ‘failure’ is : “what did I not know about that? What have I got to learn to succeed next time?” How different is that to our usual : “My life sucks, I always get into these situations, people always do this to me, I have tried and it is too difficult, this is just the way my life is” (ok this is not a quote from Richard)

So my friends, you may be thinking by now…. What has the Law of Attraction got to do with all those?

The Law of Attraction in one sentence basically states that anything you can think of will happen in your life – good or bad. Richard demonstrated how his clear thought of a goal in his head has lead to situations and people that have entered his life to take him closer to his dreams. He showed us that deep faith in your dreams and acting in the direction of your passions will ultimately lead you to a life you enjoy living, and one of abundance. It is possible. What you want is possible. You just need to see it in your minds eye, visualise, believe , feel it in you, ACT when the opportunities present themselves to you, continue to be open to what could be possible and live life boldly. It is ok to have some fear but you must ride the waves, and eventually you will learn how to predict the waves and prepare for them better, or perhaps you will just learn how to bounce back harder, and that is where fear dissolves, and we get to live in freedom.

What a beautiful thought this is.




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If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your lovely face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely – Roald Dahl

Have you ever accurately guessed someone’s personality and tendencies of being just by looking at them? They say the camera doesn’t lie, I think the face doesn’t lie. The snapshot of a camera merely captures a moment in time, where the face is frozen in a state of emotion that is predominant in that period of a person’s life. In other words, we are what we think about most of the time. If we think good thoughts of joy, giving, gratitude and love, then we are happy, generous, appreciative and content. If we think about all the things we do not have and wish to have in life, we will operate out of a space of frustration, anger, envy and greed.

By all means aim high and work hard towards your goals, be your own competition and seek to grow and improve, but also remember to be thankful of all the things that you have around you and celebrate your wins. Think good thoughts and be kind to others, and you will see and experience greater gifts in your days. Life will reveal to you abundance in everything you do.



Watch the video if you want to learn how to go from not knowing anything at all about a skill to being rather good at it in 20 hours. Josh Kaufman explains the findings of his 2 year research on the subject of learning a new skill….


Key points :

1) Contrary to popular belief, it does not take 10000 hours to learn and be good at a new skill, it takes round about 20 hours. This works out to 40 minutes everyday, for a month. This figure will  vary from person to person, but it is around this order of magnitude!

2) There is a system to learn effectively :

  • Step 1 : Be CLEAR about what you want to achieve at the end of it. When you imagine that you have learnt the skill, what does it look like? what needs to happen before you can say you have mastered the skill? what can you now do?
  • Step 2 : Break the objective down into smaller sub skills. He gives an example of learning how to play golf. It takes different skills to drive and to putt. Recognize the differences, practice them in sub sets, and pick the subskill that is most impactful for results and start with that first.
  • Step 3: Find resources to help you. Books, CDs, a coach, mentors….. Do your research. Pick 3-5 resources and identify the patterns that are similar to identify what is important. Then self correct!
  • Step 4: Removing barriers to practice. Remember set yourself up to win. If this skill is really that important, it deserves your focus and time. Honour your practice time.
  • Step 5 : Precommit to giving the 20 hours of focused practise time. This helps you evaluate if this skill is really important to you. This also helps you get over the barrier of frustration in skill acquisition.

3) This is not rocket science, it is something that we have been doing in all kinds of skill acquisition, not many of us have done it in such a deliberate strategic way.

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Dream big

Today I ask that you do not limit yourself. I ask that you let go of the fear of being different. I ask that you let go of the fear of failure to get what you want. I ask that you let go of the fear of being disappointed.

People say: ” Your goals must be realistic”. What is “realistic” anyway? Was the 4 minute mile realistic before Roger Bannister ran it? Was commercial aircrafts “realistic” before the Wright Brothers took flight for the first time? Were smart phones realistic back in the day when mobile networks had not yet existed?

Your big dreams are most likely the most compelling. They are the ones that will get you up in the morning and keep you up late at night to find a solution for. They are the ones that will set your direction of growth and fuel your desire to be better.

Whilst dreaming big is good, acting big is better. Compliment the dream with actions. Action is the bridge between dreams and reality.

Dream big, Act BIGGER.



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The best way out is always through – Robert Frost

So you have come up to a wall. 10 days into the new year and your New Years Resolution is starting to seem like a joke. Question is, 1) How badly do you want what’s on the other side? 2) Are you a quitter?

There is always a way to get what you want. There is also always a better strategy to get where you want to be. Stay clear on your desired outcome, keep focused and keep blasting through those walls.

Come on, never give up on your dreams.

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The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet – James Oppenheim


So many of us wish our lives away. Statements like “I wish you would spend more time with me” or “I wish the weekend is here now” leads us to discount the blessings that surrounds us now. It is close to impossible to be satisfied and fulfilled by  living in a made believe world or a wish in the future. Instead, feel the abundance that surrounds you, hear the laughter , and choose to see the good side of things. After all, there are always a few sides of the story, why not choose the one that serves you?